100 Reasons Why Everyone Should Be Fed Up With Domestic Violence

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1. Because we live in a world where every 9 seconds a woman is assaulted or beaten.
2. Because 5 million children witness domestic violence each year.
3. Because silence is the batterers best-friend
4. Because emotional abuse is just as, if not more, damaging than physical abuse.
5. Because love shouldn’t hurt.
6. Because 1.5 million High School students experience physical abuse every year.
7. Because living with a narcissist is destructive to the person you are.
8. Because there is still stigma today surrounding domestic violence.
9. Because sexual assault is directly correlated to domestic violence.
10. Because people think it’s a private issue that only happens behind closed doors.
11. Because all school curriculum requires sex education, but not all school curriculum requires learning about teen dating violence or learning about healthy relationships.
12. Because it is incredibly damaging to your self-esteem, self-worth and entire sense of self.
13. Because we live in a world where socially ingrained rape culture has becoming the norm.
14. Because no child should ever have to witness abuse.
15. Because domestic violence homicide is the leading cause of death for pregnant women.
16. Because people don’t like to talk about it.
17. Because survivors are consistently re-victimized.
18. Because the majority of survivors don’t get the justice they deserve.
19. Because law enforcement, the courts, and other institutions need to be better educated when it comes to domestic violence
20. Because too many children grow up in homes where they think that behavior is acceptable.
21. Because shame is too often put on the victim, rather than the perpetrator.
22. Because no one should ever lose their life to the senseless act of domestic violence.
23. Because 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been physically abused by an intimate partner.
24. Because it is a national epidemic, it is all around us, in our neighborhoods, communities, schools, and where we work.
25. Because no child should grow up without knowing their mom or dad.
26. Because the most lethal time for a victim in an abusive relationship is when he/she leaves the relationship.
27. Because no one should have power and control over another human.
28. Because silence is so powerful it enables domestic violence.
29. Because on average it takes a women 7-8 times before she leaves for good, and an average of being hit 35 times before reporting it.
30. Because the abuse can have long term effects; PTSD, traumatic brain injuries, substance abuse, self-harm, nightmares, and trauma.
31. Because everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
32. Because someone can die up to a week after being strangled, and it takes the same amount of pressure to open a can of soda as it does to kill someone by strangulation.
33. Because having your arms and feet tied behind your back is demeaning and degrading.
34. Because too many times the abuser manipulates the children and courts, and mothers lose their children to the abuser.
35. Because it’s ugly.
36. Because learning to love and trust again after being in an abusive relationship is incredibly difficult.
37. Because no one should be told what to wear, or how to act.
38. Because we as survivors, are taking our power back.
39. Because words hurt, and they stay with you for a long time.
40. Because it does not discriminate.
41. Because victims are too ashamed or embarrassed to speak about it.
42. Because many survivors live in constant fear long after the abuse is gone.
43. Because survivors have the difficult task of putting their lives back together after the abuse.
44. Because “You should be happy I love you” and “no one else would want you” are words every survivor hears and believes.
45. Because abusers have the ability to make us question our sanity.
46. Because more than twice as many women are killed by an intimate partner than by a stranger.
47. Because no one should live in fear.
48. Because being in an abusive relationship is incredibly lonely.
49. Because it’s been going on for far too long.
50. Because it makes people afraid.
51. Because we always here the question “Why didn’t she leave?”, when we should be asking “Why does he abuse?”
52. Because distressing memories, anxiety, blocks to intimacy, and trust issues are common in people who have experienced abuse.
53. Because it makes people uncomfortable.
54. Because no one ever deserves to be beaten, threatened, raped, and insulted.
55. Because pregnancy can be an especially dangerous time for women in abusive relationships.
56. Because there is never an excuse for abuse.
57. Because many women remain tragically unaware that they are in an abusive relationship.
58. Because it’s time we take action now, instead of just reacting later.
59. Because it’s serious.
60. Because It is a persistent issue in the world today.
61. Because despite their being more  awareness about, it is still not enough to end it.
62. Because people don’t understand it.
63. Because possessive and controlling behaviors don’t usually appear overnight, they emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.
64. Because most of us, while grocery shopping, at work, or at home, come across several women a day who have either been abused, or are currently enduring abuse.
65. Because it’s not okay to be pressured to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with.
66. Because it’s a terrible fact of life for far too many women.
67. Because everyone deserves to have a happy relationship without worry of suffering.
68. Because teenage girls think that when a boy texts them constantly throughout the day to check on them, it means they love and care for them.
69. Because all forms of abuse are equally damaging.
70. Because many children who grow up around abuse continue the cycle of abuse into adulthood.
71. Because putting yourself back together and learning to live again is extremely difficult.
72. Because in court, abusers have more rights than their victims, and having to face your abuser and testify is terrifying.
73. Because the effects of suffering any type of abuse can influence quality of life and general well-being for you, your partner and any other family members directly involved with the relationship.
74. Because anxiety attacks can happen anywhere, anytime, without warning, and take over your life.
75. Because walking on eggshells due to the fear of what might set the abuser off, is a feeling no one should have to experience.
76. Because being isolated from your friends and family makes you feel hopeless.
77. Because the abuser doesn’t care that only they can prevent domestic violence.
78. Because no means no.
79. Because being told that you are responsible for the abuse causes shame, stress, and humiliation.
80. Because victims are incredibly vulnerable, especially in the midst of ongoing abuse.
81. Because abusers are narcissistic master manipulators, which means everything you say can and will be used against you.
82. Because abusers can’t take responsibility for their own actions so they shift the blame and turn everything around and make it the victims fault instead of theirs.
83. Because abuse can often begin or escalate during pregnancy.
84. Because using humiliation, fear, and guilt, to exhaust someone’s self-worth and optimism in incredibly damaging.
85. Because verbal or emotional abuse can leave psychological wounds that are harder to heal than bodily injuries.
86. Because triggers are unpredictable and are distressing.
87. Because financial abuse is one of the most powerful methods of keeping a survivor trapped in an abusive relationship and deeply diminishes their ability to stay safe after leaving an abusive relationship.
88. Because discrimination against survivors is all too common and keeps them in dangerous situations and makes them more dependent on their abusers.
89. Because living in an abusive household is not truly “living”.
90. Because victims get up every day knowing that the person who should be most supportive will likely spend the day threatening to harm the children and pets, and controlling and monitoring their activities.
91. Because the number of American women who were murdered by a current, or ex male partner between 2001 and 2012, doubles the amount of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq during that time.
92. Because abuse results in a constellation of issues that harm entire communities.
93. Because many people still get unexpected traumatic and horrific flashbacks of the abuse.
94. Because the only way to treat someone you love, is with empathy, kindness, and respect.
95. Because abusers instill in their victim an extreme sense of anxiety and confusion to the point where the victim no longer trusts their own memory, perception or judgment.
96. Because the cycle the abusers use in the relationship keeps you trapped in a living nightmare.
97. Because you are not crazy, this is not your fault, and you deserve better.
98. It destroys lives, families, and communities.
99. Because we all are worthy and deserving of a loving relationship that consists of honest communication, patience, fun and laughs, emotional support, validation, compliments, sharing goals and dreams, being able to admit mistakes, compassion and acceptance.
100. Because there is nothing more offensive than domestic violence.

100 REASONS WE SAY #FUCKDV


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This article made by possible by Tara Loo, Board Member of Break the Silence against Domestic Violence

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How you can help! This month, Break the Silence against Domestic Violence ™ is fundraising to produce our first ever “Guide to Healthy Relationships” which will educate communities on healthy relationships and the harsh realities of abuse. Our goal is to reach 20,000 students in 2017, with your help we can do it. Text FUCKDV to 91999 to make your tax-deductible donation today and make your community one step closer to preventing domestic violence.

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