{"id":12074,"date":"2020-08-11T09:23:18","date_gmt":"2020-08-11T16:23:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/btsadv.wpengine.com\/?p=12074"},"modified":"2020-08-11T09:23:22","modified_gmt":"2020-08-11T16:23:22","slug":"returning-to-school-in-a-virtual-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/breakthesilencedv.org\/?p=12074","title":{"rendered":"Returning to School in a Virtual World"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">By Jenn Rockefeller<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Unprecedented times. That is a term so often heard in this midst of this global pandemic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Children today have to face returning to school in a virtual world. For many states, the return to school has begun this month. Many changes abound \u2013 school districts need to figure out logistics on how they are going to teach, when and if they will physically return to schools this fall and what safety measures will be taken.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">For children who have witnessed domestic violence, returning to school in a virtual world means being at home with one or both parents who are abusive. For many, school was an escape of sorts \u2013 a place they felt safe. Their support system was made up of their teachers and peers when they were physically at school. Now, children are isolated and face the reality that they now have a lack of support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">How can we support children through this?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">My daughter has entered high school. She is a freshman. She had her sights set on joining the cross country team this fall, just like she did in the eighth grade. She won\u2019t get to experience that, nor will she experience what freshman year in high school is supposed to be like \u2013 lockers, changing classes, friends, cafeteria food, and walking the hallways. She recently told me that she was not looking forward to the start of school. A little bit of back and forth in the conversation, and I learned that she won\u2019t be with friends or have that in-person learning experience with teachers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">That\u2019s what children need&#8211;the in-person experience. Right now, they are feeling isolated and alone. So how can we, as the healthy parent, help our children through this? How can we support them?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Listen \u2013 If they want to open up about their feelings, just listen. Many times, you don\u2019t even need to say anything in return. Sometimes, just letting your child know you will listen to them will impact them more than you know.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Reactions \u2013 If you have more than one child, each child\u2019s reaction to the pandemic may vary. Some will pull away emotionally and refrain from talking about their feelings. Some will be more talkative. Some will want more attention from you. You can support your children by giving them the space they need or by giving them the attention they are craving. Let them know you will be there for them in whatever capacity they need.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Time \u2013 Whether you are a prominent caregiver in your children\u2019s lives or you do not live with them, giving them your time and attention is vital. They need quality time with you, no matter what form that takes. My children do not live with me, and therefore finding different ways to connect is essential. Lately, we\u2019ve taken to spending time video chatting via Facebook Messenger (they are on Messenger for Kids). Giving children your undivided attention shows them that you are interested in who they are as people and want to know what goes on with them.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Reassure \u2013 I often let my children know that I am staying as safe as I can. I tell them that I take appropriate measures in doing so. Sometimes, this simple reassurance will help ease a child\u2019s fears.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Routine \u2013 If your children do live with you, creating a routine for them is important. They need to have a sense of normalcy and predictability in their lives. What time do they wake up, shower, and begin their school work? If you have to, create an itinerary of sorts for them to follow.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Engage \u2013 You can also support your children by keeping them engaged in activities like reading, playing board games, being outside (in your backyard, or nature walk while practicing proper social distancing), and other fun activities when they are not doing their schoolwork.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">But what if you do not have custody of your children and they are living with the other parent? What then? How do you help your children who have to learn virtually with an abusive parent at home? They don\u2019t have an immediate support system to go to. You become their source of support. As previously mentioned, the in-person learning environment that schools provide was their support system. That was their way of escaping what they were going through at home. When you are not physically there to be your child\u2019s support system, you need to find creative ways to support them. Writing letters, playing online games with them, video chats, and phone conversations are just a few ways you can support your children. Continue to be the one person they can count on in these unprecedented times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, there is help. You can visit the Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence website at www.breakthesilencedv.org or chat with one of our helpline advocates at 855-287-1777.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">========<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Share Your Story<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Sharing our stories can be incredibly empowering while also helping others connect with survivors who have similar experiences. If you are inspired to share your story with us, submit <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/breakthesilencedv.org\/break-your-silence\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">here<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">. You can choose to remain anonymous.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">You can also donate to BTSADV <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/breakthesilencedv.org\/donate\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">here<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Photo Credit: Rachel, via <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/o3tIY5pIork\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Unsplash<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[348],"tags":[92,125,289,90,160,256,41],"class_list":["post-12074","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog","tag-abuse","tag-children","tag-covid-19","tag-domestic-violence","tag-isolation","tag-jenn-rockefeller","tag-kids-and-dv"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.6 - 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