{"id":18987,"date":"2024-04-11T09:17:28","date_gmt":"2024-04-11T16:17:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/breakthesilencedv.org\/?p=18987"},"modified":"2024-12-19T19:22:36","modified_gmt":"2024-12-20T02:22:36","slug":"how-to-guides-children-witnessing-abuse-and-how-to-speak-out-by-gaurpreet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/breakthesilencedv.org\/?p=18987","title":{"rendered":"How to Guides: Children Witnessing Abuse and How to Speak Out"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cThe greater a child\u2019s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to
develop a strong and healthy sense of self.\u201d\u2015 Nathaniel Branden
People tend to believe that children don\u2019t observe anything. However, they are the best
judge of their surroundings. Children have this sixth sense of feeling, observing, and sensing
things that prove to be a threat around them. When they are being raised in an abusive
household, it is not like they didn\u2019t notice the turmoil in the house; rather they are now
seeking ways to speak about the abuse they are witnessing.\u00a0
Most of the time, children don\u2019t know how to express themselves, and sometimes they don\u2019t
know to whom to express themselves. They often release their unexpressed feelings and
suppressed emotions through tantrums, and aggressiveness in actions or might engage in
physical fights with others.\u00a0
There are five ways through which you can help children from abusive relationships come to
terms with the fact of speaking about it without any fear, and remorse.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \n
  1. Be a leader and a supporter: Your children will not always come to you because they
    have developed this fear of getting ridiculed, shamed, and rejected by you. They
    might seek your support, so always take the lead and talk to them when you
    feel the time is right. Be a supporter of their feelings and assure them that you
    understand what they are going through by being empathetic.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Use terminologies like these: Your children haven\u2019t given you birth. You
    have given them birth and brought them into this world. It\u2019s your responsibility to
    comfort them by using statements like, \u201cI know what you are going through, and I am
    sorry that you are feeling this way,\u201d \u201cI care about you, and I know I will do everything
    in my power to protect you,\u201d or \u201cI listen to your feelings even when you don\u2019t express
    those feelings, and I love you.\u201d Always give them an assured hug, and live by your
    words.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Abuse is not their fault: So many times, children believe that their parents are fighting
    amongst themselves because of them. They start hiding themselves and wish to
    vanish from the face of the earth. Tell your children that abuse is not their fault.
    Whatever it is that they are witnessing hasn\u2019t been asked or invited by them. It\u2019s the
    way abuse is, and you are going to take steps to segregate them from that abusive
    environment.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Don\u2019t unnecessarily burden them: Sometimes parents believe that putting the
    burden of support or understanding on their children will help in subsiding the
    feelings that emerged out of an abusive environment. However, that is not what
    serves the best purpose. You don\u2019t have to burden your children when they are<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    trying to process the abuse they are enduring along with you. Don\u2019t seek their
    support or understanding because they are growing up and will take time to come
    out of that depressed zone of life. Be available for them, but don\u2019t seek the same in
    return.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      \n
    1. Always prepare them to stand up against the abuse: Parents believe that children
      forget about the abuse the following day when they wake up. No, they don\u2019t.
      Children start believing that abuse is love when you instill these ideas into their
      brains. If you tell them to forget about the abuse because it just happened once or to
      become accustomed to it, they start seeking the same in relationships outside of the
      abode as well. So, kindly prepare your children to always stand up against the abuse.
      They deserve the world just like everybody else.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      If it becomes tough to deal with them or to help them at home then please seek
      professional help for yourself and your children too. We must build an environment where
      we are getting along and raising society as a whole.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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