Survivor Story: I Thought If I Changed, He Would Stop Abusing Me
Written by: Jasmine, Survivor
Do you feel physically, mentally, and spiritually hurt in the relationship you’re in? If you said yes, please look for help. It isn’t healthy at all, and you don’t have to feel like that anymore. You can make a change.
My name is Jasmine, and I would like to tell my story for the first time. I am 20 years old. From the age of 16, I was in an abusive relationship. At the time, of course, I thought it was love and that he would change. My abuser showed me different things and gave me a rush I couldn’t get from anywhere else.
I loved him. I did everything a girlfriend should do thinking that it’ll make him stop. The abuse continued as the years went on. I hid it from my family, friends, and co-workers. Well, at least I thought I did.
I learned that the longer you try to hide something from people, the more people find out. Sooner or later everybody discovered what was going on. Of course, no one could keep us apart. We moved in with each other. He isolated me from everyone and everybody. We moved to a city I didn’t know much about nor did I know anybody that lived by us.
On July 4th, 2017 my abuser and I got into an argument early in the morning because I wanted to go to the pool with my family. A few hours later, the argument turned into an altercation, and I was physically hurt. He took me to the hospital and watched over me the whole time. I didn’t call my parents nor friends. I was embarrassed.
When we got home, I let him doze off; I fled that night. I drove an hour to my friend’s house with one eye still functioning and the other one swollen shut. My nose was broken, and my eye was swollen shut from the trauma I received.
After this night, I never went back. It was the hardest thing to do, but I am the best me today because I left. After all the arguments and fights, I finally left… So, if you’re reading this and going through something similar, you can leave. It’ll be hard, but I promise you, you’ll be so much happier and at peace.
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