I was in a 13 year abusive relationship with a man who always played the whoah is me card. It was obvious that he had a personality disorder as it ran in the family. Still not an excuse to throw someone across a room and have her land and break a coffee table. I left home and have been on my own for 10 years now and I never regret leaving his sorry ass. There was always a lot of Im sorry and I didnt mean to hurt you and I love you, but also there was you get me so mad, basically blaming me because I provoked him. My biggest fear of leaving was if I could financially afford it. It didnt stop me, I wanted out and away from him. I did everything I needed to do, got all paperwork in order, informed him I was leaving and he wanted to buy me out of the house we shared, so I said “perfect. I know it’s not always that easy for everyone, and he did think I would be back. Not a chance on Gods green earth did I even consider that. I used to be embarrassed to tell my story, now I tell anyone who asks about my previous relationships that were abusive. There is no excuse for hitting someone you apparently love and it sickens me in the way these type of people can turn the fault of their behavior on someone else.