Alexis C

My name is Alexis, and my whole life has been turned upside down from escaping my abuser, standing up to him and anyone else who has tried to silence me. My daughters father is a marine veteran and ex law student. He also has a degree in psychology and let me tell you he is the worst of the worst. I shared one of the worst pictures from ONE of my many injuries.

We share a six almost seven year old daughter. I left him before she turned three because it had gotten so bad that she was starting to step in front of him to protect me and I could no longer allow that. I got a restraining order on him and he pretty much disappeared from our lives up until October 2020. He suddenly came back into our lives and was requesting full custody of our daughter claiming I was unfit.

The last two years have been absolute hell. I have lost so much, almost everything..in fact, I broke down last night and made a gofund me. I have lost family, friends, jobs, money, my reputation…We have lost, a lot but I never lost my will to fight. I stuck it out, the injustices, defamation, and false reports. Then finally September 29th he settled and my daughter remains with me. I asked him about two weeks prior to our final hearing if “it was still his testimony that……..” and named multiple lies he had told, things he did, how he conspired with my EX best friend to bring false charges against me only to have me arrested in front of my daughter last November on her birthday….and so on. He responded with ” I have too much time on my hands and just because I lie on the talking parent app doesn’t make it true. Therefore he wasn’t entertaining it.” I responded, well, that’s fine and that’s your right but you will have to entertain it in court and answer to the judge when I provide him with all the proof. Within thirty minutes my lawyer called saying he wanted to suddenly settle, he was running out of money and I had, had him in court long enough. He started all of this not me, I never once kept him from our daughter, he chose not to be in her life.

Now I am stuck with outstanding debt, another court case with me ex “best friend” who I now need a new lawyer for. I am on the verge of being homeless and without a vehicle. I won that battle but I haven’t won the war. He and his posse harassed and terrorized me for years all for him to just settle. I am still stuck here picking up the pieces. My daughter and I both suffer from PTSD and sever anxiety. Unfortunately she still has to go visit him on the weekends and she gets sick to her stomach. This man beat me down physically, mentally and publicly. He has stalked me, made fake social media pages, broke into my home; I would wake up in the middle of the night with him sitting over the top of me just staring at me and he would say “I should kill you right now”. He still is abusive, emotionally to not just me but my daughter. I won’t stop fighting for her, myself or any victim/survivor until the day that I die.

There is not enough being done, the system is broken and women like us deserve and owe it to our children to continue to fight. I don’t care how many times I fail, I fail better every time. My baby is safe and with me majority of the time but she will never be free of him. We have to BE the change and stick together. Stay strong and know that you are not alone.