I have been a victim to emotional abuse. My neighbour has been relentless it started as friends. I thought Stuart was my friend. He would want to spend all his time with me. It got to a point where I couldn’t take him coming round any more. He would want to spend every second of the day. I had no time to myself he would say I am locking you in for safety reasons. Then when it come to night time where I want to go home next door to go home. He would tell me its best to stay with him have cuddles he loves me in a different way. I got to a point where I felt trapped. He would say let’s go to bed he would tell me to come to bed almost He would lock me in his flat. He went mad threatening police and threatening me he was on liecnce he has isolated me beaten me up was racially abusive to me. He continued to harass me. Make me feel scared to go out. I plucked up the courage to ring the police je went to jail. And now he is out of jail he told me the day he got out of jail that he is not mad for me sending him to jail. He made me think everything was alright. But it was so far from alright. He is brokwn into my home swapped my keys so he could hurt me and my puppies further. Evey time i go out aand i come back to my flat mt wjndoew is broken and he is telling i am going crazy its all in my head its my mental health. So i thought i am overthinking things. Its been 2 months and now I realise it has been him reporting me to the council it was him that reported me to the rspca. And its him who has been making out we were friends. When it wasn’t friend ship he kept me there to emotional abuse me because i didnt eant a relationship with him and he is getting revenge now because i have a boyfriend and I didnt want him. met was part of the mutilation the game he would play. When I had puppies to look after. So it would We would play zombies every day. He would run me a bath cook me dinner he controled eveything I did. He made me feel isolated my family my friends noticed when they didnt see me at all. If i was allowed out it would be with him and only him . If I seen any of my friends when I was out with him he wouldnt let me stop to speak to them je would control who i see and who i talk to. That is when i realised i never gelt so alone. I didn’t realise at the time that I was going through emotional abuse. Then I would pluck up the courage to speak out to stand up for myself but he wiuld always put me down blame me for everything. If i did say anything he wouldn’t give me chnace to speak he would talk over me and start to shout at me. He would always shout at me and tell me i am not listening i need to listen to his advice. He is always telling me how to talk act the more i was in his compnay the more i thought is it me going crazy he would play these mind games and talk in a way that would confuse me then i started to doubt myself. Then we argued he shouted at me i started to cry and then he told me he don’t do this to nobody else just me because he loves me in different way. He would tell me i need his advice it helps me his demans that u need him in my life wherever i go he will find me. J told him i dont want to be friends with him any more and he starts
Calling me all these horrible names i am stupid bitch. So i ended the friendship and he tartwhen I wanted time to myself it was like I wasn’t allowed. And now I have a boyfriend. I told the police for the past 3 days it has happened every day Stuart has got his friends neighbours to think he is such a nice guy but I know different. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors. So the police haven’t done anything I sit up every night with all the lights on my window is still broken I am breaking my silence. My name is Stacey
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