Break Your Silence

A Man’s Journey Through Infidelity and Emotional Abuse

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By Anonymous Survivor

**The following is written by a survivor of domestic violence, infidelity, and abuse. Names have been changed to protect all involved.**

I have been married for nearly 25 years, and and as far as I know, my wife has been cheating on me for 13 of those years.

All in all, I thought we were fine.

I thought all was well, and each time the infidelity happened, I was truly convinced each instance was my fault.

“So I forgave her each time.”

She had an affair with my boss, my best friend, and even my attorney. The infidelity was rampant.

She convinced me that my weaknesses and demons warranted her behavior so I put up with it, feeling absolutely terrible for being the root cause of her actions.

She ended up getting pregnant to one of her “lovers”. But by the time I truly discovered the truth of her infidelity, I had already fell in love with the baby and I refused to give her up.

Infidelity and Raising Another Man’s Biological Child

I’m currently raising another man’s child, but it isn’t her fault how she got here. She’s a human being. A person.

She is now 3 years old and knows me as “dadda” and I wouldn’t have it any other way. It shatters my heart how she got here, but it mends my heart that she is here.

I have written a full book about my wife’s terrible physical and narcissistic abuse and infidelity. She has truly performed acts that only the most depraved, yet creative Hollywood writers could ever contemplate.

I am healing, but the pain seems never ending.

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