Understanding Divorce Grounds and Processes.

By Survivor Mikayla Shave

“Understanding Divorce Grounds and Processes: A Guide for Domestic Violence Survivors”

Understanding Divorce Grounds and Processes for Domestic Violence Survivors. Filing for divorce involves detailing the reasons for the dissolution of a marriage. For victims and survivors of domestic violence, these reasons can feel clear. However, navigating the legal system can be complex. Judges must carefully assess each case before deciding whether the divorce should be classified as fault-based or no-fault. Understanding the difference between these divorce grounds is essential for those seeking to end an abusive marriage.

Fault-Based vs. No-Fault Divorce

In a fault-based divorce, one spouse accuses the other of specific actions that led to the breakdown of the marriage, such as adultery, cruelty, or abandonment. In contrast, a no-fault divorce does not require proving that one spouse is to blame. Instead, the petitioner can cite reasons like irreconcilable differences, incompatibility, or an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. For survivors of domestic violence, a fault-based divorce may be necessary to establish the abusive behavior that led to the marriage’s end.

No-fault divorces are often faster and more affordable, but cases involving abuse can make the process more difficult. In situations involving children, additional legal complexities may arise, necessitating legal expertise to ensure a safe and fair outcome.

States Allowing Fault-Based Divorce

Not every state allows for fault-based divorce. States like Alabama, Alaska, and others offer the option of filing a fault-based divorce. However, some states impose long waiting periods, which can complicate the process for those in abusive marriages. For example, Vermont requires a 450-day waiting period, and Rhode Island mandates a 510-day wait with provisions for “wickedness” as grounds for fault. In South Carolina, there is a 450-day period, including a mandatory one-year separation, which can be financially and emotionally burdensome for domestic violence survivors.

Proving Fault in Divorce

When filing for a fault-based divorce, it’s crucial to present evidence of abuse. Survivors often face the difficult task of reliving traumatic experiences in court. Abusers may attempt to discredit the claims, leveraging their emotional manipulation to sway the court’s perception.

To increase the chances of a successful outcome, it’s important to gather and preserve comprehensive documentation of the abuse. Evidence can include 911 calls, text messages, photos, videos, and any other records that clearly demonstrate the abusive behavior. This documentation helps ensure the court takes the claims seriously, making it more likely the divorce will be granted based on fault.

Residency Requirements for Divorce

Another essential factor is residency requirements. Each state has different criteria that must be met before filing for divorce. Generally, a spouse must have resided in the state for a minimum of three months to file. In some cases, it’s strategically beneficial to file first, particularly if there is concern that an abusive spouse may relocate to another state. By filing in your current state, you can help prevent delays and potential complications that could arise if your spouse moves.

Conclusion: Moving Toward a Safer Future

For domestic violence survivors, navigating divorce proceedings requires careful attention to legal details. Understanding the difference between fault and no-fault divorce, residency requirements, and the need for solid documentation of abuse can empower survivors to take the next step toward freedom and safety. Divorce is a legal process, but it’s also a crucial step toward reclaiming control and ensuring a brighter, safer future.

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References:

  • Heinig, M. (2023, April 21). No-Fault Divorce Vs. Fault Divorce FAQ. Nolo. Link
  • Rabiner, S. (2012, March 20). 10 Worst States to Get a Divorce. FindLaw. Link
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