Katy J

Almost 7 years ago I got together with my son’s father, who was also our abuser. This a started when we lived in CO. He showed no signs until after my son was born, that’s when all the red flags started rearing their ugly heads. Honestly, I don’t know what happened behind closed doors when I was at work. But when I was home our abuser would belittle us. He was VERY controlling, manipulative and would accuse me of cheating. But everything started to spiral out of control when we moved back to WA.

That’s when all the physical abuse started. He would leave marks on not me but my son. That’s when he wasn’t playing his video games. One night I almost had to put out an amber alert because he was not in the right state of mind and took off with my vehicle and our son in his lap, I had no clue where he was going and after he put his hands on me. We had to go into hiding where my friends would happily protect us from him. Sadly, it got to the point where his mother had to make the heartbreaking call to the police and DCYF in order to get my son away from his own father. But I wasn’t able to get away from him that easily. It took almost 2 more years of belittlement, manipulation, physical abuse and name calling. It took him going to prison in order for me to get away and to get my son back.

My son and I are doing wonderful. My son is a happy maniac, who is very active and loves the outdoors just like I am.

During that incredibly dark time, I had been told that I was just a shell of myself. And now everyone knows that my fire is back and with a vengeance.