My Story – Tara K

July 7. 2019 I was brutally assaulted by my ex husband while going thru active treatment for breast Cancer. We went to a picnic at the picnic the ex decided to have intimate conversation with another woman. I was sitting at the table outside with his two best friends and their wives. I did see my ex with the other women. One of his bf saw it as well and decided to confront him. At this point I’m embarrassed and ready to go home. As I was looking for my ex I found him and the one bf in a heating conversation about my ex behavior. I informed my ex I was ready to go. The drive home was quite until we got on the highway my ex asked me what was wrong. I told him I was tired I was done and he was disrespectful. He asked me why I would say that I told him I was going to argue with him I wanted him out of my house his lies were all catching up to him I turned and continued to stare out the window ignoring him. 123 punches to the left side of my 123my head hit the window. I turned to Him asked what the fuck he attempted to punch me again I held up my arm to block his punch and punched the hell out of him. Not sure why he tried to call his best friends but neither of them answered. He then calls his 74 year old mother begging her to take his side he had no one else he then put the phone between his legs his mother still on the we are still on the highway and he punches me again I screamed and told his mother to yell him to stop punching me. I didn’t realize the one punch I blocked my watch broke. Beads in my hair were all the floor. Pulled up to the house I grab the beads and the watch he was still on the phone with his mom telling her I was crazy I looked at Him however that look was caused him to follow me into the house according to the police I went into the bedroom this was 2019 he wasn’t indicted until April of 2022 arraigned August off 2022 and filed a motion to have charges dropped because he hit me in defense. I guys he forgot that has his mother was still on the phone with him that night by his response she was asking to speak to me I said let me talk to her he pretending to hand me the phone but said oops the call dropped. He then started asking me why I hit him on the highway. I laughed at him. He then calls the woman from the picnic and apologized to her for my behavior I said you are a bitch and I want you out of my house right fucking now. He leaped over the love seat grabbed me by my throat and pushed me against the wall hard enough for my left heel put a whole in the wall my feet were not touching the ground I told him I couldn’t breath twice but he wouldn’t let go. I repeated myself I can’t breathe he let me go I was bent over trying to catch my breath and he punches me twice I stumbled then fell as I was falling he punched me two more time I was trying to get up and realized how close to the stairs I was. I got up he walked up to me and said he should throw me down the stairs my sex was bad and he had been with over 100 women he is leaning down in my right ear saying this I can kill you if I wanted to he is 6’8 260lbs. I him he was done and he was a coward as I turned away from him he punches two more times grabs by my throat again and slams be on the bed with his knees in my chest I still had my bandages on from breast surgery. He shook I looked him and said what now you going to rape me I remember moving my leg to get him off of me but he got up I asked him if he really thinks he is going to get away with this I had no idea what my face looked at but I couldn’t feel anything on the left side of my face after he got off me I knew I had to get a door between me and him I got up I tried to run for the bathroom he punched me I stumbled then I felt this grabbed from behind he punch again I thought I could still get to the bathroom the last punch was so hard he knocked me to the floor on my chest and the left side of my face. I thought to get up then I heard him take a picture on his cell phone he laughed God told me to play dead and I passed out. 4 years I take medication for every thing pain nerve control muscle control surgery after 3 years the swelling finally started to go away but the damage was done. The left side of my face is paralyzed it barely moves I an now deformed. We are going thru the system now he was charge with aggravated assaulted with intent to kill, false imprisonment both felonies and 2 misdemeanors. I forgave him a long time ago I do get triggered but not so much I speak to women about what happened to me. I’ve helped women get out of their situation. He will go to prison whether he pleads or we go to trail. But seeing him for the first time in over 4 years I could see in his eyes he knew he was already defeated. I exhaled. He testified I testified the police officer testified to what he wrote in his report what I didn’t know was that night that officer had his body cam on and what I testified to what he put in his report was the exact same thing on the body. God is good!!! Did he go to an extreme to get me away from him yes and I am glad that in almost dying now I live!!!!! I don’t fear him I don’t even think about that man. But judgment is coming. I’m living and not just existing anymore. I have talk to my Senator he stands with me to amend the women’s rights bill. Me quiet not happening anytime soon. I’m going to the capital one day to tell my story. Domestic Violence is Attempted Murder and should be treated as such. This is why I need to be want to be desire to be an Ambassador for this organization. Thank you for your time God bless.