Break Your Silence

Sexual Abuse to Trap Me

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By Survivor Lynn

**The following is written by a survivor of domestic violence, sexual abuse, and abuse. Names have been changed to protect all involved.**

At the age of 20, I was introduced to an older man whom I eventually started dating.

We had only been dating for several months when he used reproductive coercion and sexual abuse and assault to impregnate me.

My abuser had climbed on top of me, after promising to pull out, and ejaculated inside of me even after me repeatedly reminding him of our agreement.

Intimidation and Sexual Abuse

He then tried to intimidate and bully me into following through with the pregnancy.

I knew I was not ready to be a mother, and was deeply concerned about the red flags I had already witnessed in only a few months of dating.

He was including jealousy, control, intimidation, threats, coercion, insults, etc.

When I made the decision to terminate the pregnancy, he refused to drive me to the clinic and refused to pay for the procedure.

The Abuse Became More Frequent

After I terminated the pregnancy, the abuse increased at an exponential rate.

It was only years later that I realized he had initially intended to trap me into a relationship with him by getting me pregnant.

Using insemination that was never agreed upon.

Years later during an argument, he told me that if I had ever left him and we had children together, he would have taken the children away from me.

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Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence (BTSADV) is a national nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence beyond crisis. BTSADV focuses on long-term healing through financial assistance programs, scholarships, survivor retreats, advocacy initiatives, and a national support line. The organization works to amplify survivor voices, raise awareness about coercive control and systemic failures, and help break generational cycles of abuse through education, outreach, and community engagement.

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