By Anonymous Survivor
**The following is written by a survivor of domestic violence and emotional abuse. Names have been changed to protect all involved.**
A Man Can Be a Victim Too
I have been married for nearly 25 years, and and as far as I know, my wife has been cheating on me for 13 of those years.
All in all, I thought we were fine. I thought all was well, and each time it happened, I was truly convinced each instance was my fault.
So I forgave her each time. She had an affair with my boss, my best friend, and even my attorney.
She convinced me that my weaknesses and demons warranted her behavior so I put up with it, feeling absolutely terrible for being the root cause of her actions. Eventually, she ended up getting pregnant to one of her “lovers”.
The Emotional Abuse and Discovering the Truth
However, by the time I truly discovered the truth, I had already fallen in love with the baby. I refused to give her up.
I’m currently raising another man’s child, but it isn’t her fault how she got here. She’s a human being. A person.
She is now 3 years old and knows me as “dadda” and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
It shatters my heart how she got here, but it mends my heart that she is here.
Writing Out My Physical and Emotional Abuse
I have written a full book about my wife’s terrible physical and narcissistic, emotional abuse.
She has truly performed acts that only the most depraved, yet creative Hollywood writers could ever contemplate.
I am healing, but the pain seems never ending.
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