| I met him a couple months after I turned 18. I was in a relationship at the time, and he was just my coworker. My boyfriend at the time cheated on me so we broke up. Zach was there to comfort me after we broke up. He was the sweetest most caring guy there was. we started dating a month after. Everything was going great for a couple months until we broke up. I found out I was pregnant two weeks later. He said that it couldn’t be his baby and that he needed a paternity test. I said it was his baby because he was the only one I have been sleeping with. I told him that he would get a paternity test once the baby was born. The whole entire pregnancy was dreading. We would get back together break up get back together break up 1 million times every time we would break up he would go sleep with someone new. I didn’t sleep with anyone because I felt like I would eventually get back with him and we did every time so I didn’t feel the need to sleep with anyone. Eventually, he started verbally and mentally abusing me. He isolated me from all of my friends, and I felt like I couldn’t hang out with anyone. I felt like I was alone, and the only person I had was him. I even stopped going over to my families just because he didn’t like me leaving and he needed to know where I was 24 seven. After I had my first kid we were good. He cheated on me a week after I had my oldest kid. We got over that and we got back together. 2 1/2 months later I found out I was pregnant again. That pregnancy was even worse. Both my pregnancies were super bad and I gained no weight. I lost weight and I gained my original weight back. he yelled at me all the time and we would break up all the time as well. He would yell and call me names. A year after having the kids that’s when the physical abuse started. The first time was when I was trying to escape because I didn’t feel safe, and I locked myself in the bathroom, but then he opened it, and I tried running away, and he tackled me to the ground and he had threw my body to the ground. I was trying to get away, so I accidentally elbowed him in the face. After that I was able to get away from him and we weren’t even together so he had no right to be in my house. There were more times after that when he threw my head to the ground, and then the time at my aunts and uncles birthday party where he choked me upstairs in the bathroom. Well my whole entire family was downstairs. We left my uncles party and on the way home he choked me again. In front of our two kids again. A cop seen us on the side of the road and pulled me over. That’s the night he got arrested but not for domestic violence it was for drinking I was to scared to tell the cops even thought the cops asked if I was okay because I was bawling my eyes out on the side of the road. couldn’t tell anyone because I wanted them to like him and I didn’t want them to know that he did that. We were together for a couple months after that. Until he broke up with me while I was at work, and he had taken up all his stuff out of the house and moved it to his moms. He turned off all the cameras, so I wouldn’t find out until I got off at midnight. After that, I told him I would never get back together with him. He told me that he wanted to see if I would beg for him back, and that if I had begged for him back, he would’ve proposed to me. He started dating another lady three months after we broke up. He married her five months after we broke up. After he divorced her, we started coparenting better. I thought it was good and I thought I would be able to go bowling with him when he invited me. That night he almost ended my life. So I said yes let’s go bowling with the kids and you and me when I got in his truck he seen on my phone that I called the guy. After he seen that he got super violent. We went down by the high school and he turned left on the way to get down on the bridge. I tried jumping out because I felt unsafe because he was screaming at me. He tried pushing me out after I changed my mind after he started to go. he tried pushing me out and I got scared. I then tried to call the cops, but he grabbed my phone and threw it out the window. We went on the highway and I was screaming trying to get help trying to get someone to help me, but no one helped me on the highway he tried pushing me out of his truck moving multiple times he went all the way to the exit by the airport and then he flipped around and came back to town. He kept trying to push me out the door while he was going over 90 mph. I tried pressing his 911 thing on his rear rearview window thing multiple times. he always grabbed my hand and threw it away from the 911 button. I told him that I wouldnt call the cops if he just let me go. He said that he was going to kill me. He even started choking me, and he didn’t let me go, I thought it was gonna die and I did die but I’m still alive I did die that night, and I have not felt the same ever since then. |
The Journey of a Domestic Violence Survivor: Healing and Resilience
By Survivor The life of a Survivor of Domestic ViolenceThe repair of the abuse is never repaired because the damage is too unrepairable, mental or physical abuse stays with the survivor for life.Future relationships will be affected by the triggers of the survivor and the relationship will usually suffer, to...
